I’ve had several conversations recently in which friends have expressed grief that they have disappointed God. These conversations have led me to ponder as to whether or not it is even possible for us to disappoint God. Doesn’t disappointment imply that there has been an unmet expectation on the part of the one disappointed? If the answer to the question is yes, then I don’t think we can ever disappoint God. I’ve heard it said, “no expectations, no disappointments.
” For He knows our frame; He remembers that we are dust. Psalm 103:14 (ESV)
Disappointment seems to be self focused. I don’t mean that in the selfish sense of the word, but more in the way of something that affects my emotional state, my well-being and my outlook. Said another way, when I experience disappointment it is usually because my wants, needs (perceived or real), desires and expectations have not been met. The object of disappointment is me. God does not look to us to meet His wants, needs, desires, etc.! Our Father knows exactly what he can expect of us and how we will respond in every circumstance.
O Lord, you have searched me and known me! You know when I sit down and when I rise up; you discern my thoughts from afar. You search out my path and my lying down and are acquainted with all my ways. Even before a word is on my tongue, behold, O Lord, you know it altogether. Psalm 139:1-4 (ESV)
In fact rather than disappoint Him, we delight Him!!! For the Lord takes pleasure in his people; he adorns the humble with salvation.Psalms 149:4 (ESV)
My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline or be weary of his reproof, for the Lord reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights.Proverbs 3:12 (ESV)
The Lord your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing. Zephaniah 3:17 (ESV)
Is God’s heart broken for us? Absolutely! Brokenhearted is another condition altogether. The object of His broken heart is us, not Him. He knows the fullness of His goodness and the life He created us to have. He knows the depth of love, joy, peace, comfort and beauty we miss because of the fallen, broken world and our own sin that keep us from fully experiencing Him. His heart was so broken that He sent His son to redeem us.
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son of God. John 3:16-18
He continues to pursue and refine us even after we believe so that we will grow more and more into the likeness of the One whose image we were created to bear!
Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness.” Genesis 1:26 (ESV)
And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good,for those who are called according to his purpose. For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, in order that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. Romans 8:28-29 (ESV)
His heart breaks for us when we do not live in complete dependence on Him, complete trust in Him and when we are not fully abiding in Him. He knows what we miss out on and that breaks His heart for us!
Father, the earth is Yours and everything in it! The heavens declare Your glory and the rocks will cry out if Your people do not praise You! I confess that I live in less dependence on You than complete dependence to meet all my needs. I confess that I grasp to control my life circumstances rather than trust fully and completely in You and Your way for my life. I confess that I frequently strive rather than abide. Thank you for loving me in the midst of my sin, failures and shortcomings and for always being ready to lift me up and lead me in the way of righteousness. You are good and great is Your faithfulness. My sin, failures and shortcomings cannot exhaust your goodness or love for me. Father Your kingdom come and Your will be done!!! In the name of the One by whom, through whom and for whom everything was created … JESUS!